Sexually, Am I Normal?

There are endless questions you might ask yourself about your own sexuality, but they can be summarized down to one single question: sexually, am I normal?

In fact, when it comes to sex and sexuality, there really is no such thing as “normal”.  It is normal to be very interested in sex just as it is to be only mildly interested in sex,  to want to try new and different things as just be happy with more of the same. It’s normal to have very romantic fantasies and it’s normal to have very sexual ones.

In other cases, in most of the cases the techniques we can share may also help uncover the cause of any sexual problems you might be having, such as;

  • low sexual desire

  • loss of sexual arousal

  • anorgasmia

  • vaginismus (inability to have intercourse due to vaginal muscle tightening)

  • dyspareunia (pain with intercourse)

  • fear/anxiety over sexual activity or contact

  • changes in sexual function with menopause, cancer, diabetes, depression, medication use, and related to other medical conditions

As a natural fact of life we grow into people with unique sexual identities.

True, certain situations may call for counseling or for medical help. If a girl hasn’t started menstruating by very late in adolescence, for instance, a hormone problem might be the culprit. In such a case, you might want to see a doctor.

Am I too interested in sex? Am I not interested enough? Are my fantasies unusual? Is my clitoris in the right place?

The answer: everybody’s different, and different is normal. The best advice we can offer you is this: just try to enjoy your sexuality. Don’t judge it and don’t compare it to other people’s sexuality, experience  what you think you “should” be experiencing.